Divorce: Happily Ever After… Just Not Together Poem
People asked, “Do you feel single now?” No. I feel upgraded.
Divorce meant losing a partner but gaining full control of the remote.
Healing looked nothing like the movies — no soft piano, no slow montage — just me eating pasta at 3am in victorious silence.
People call it a “divorce glow-up,” but honestly, it’s just what happens when no one drains your life force anymore.
Sharing custody taught me balance — specifically how to schedule a breakdown between 5 and 7pm.
My friends said, “You seem lighter.” That’s what happens when you drop unnecessary emotional weight.
I don’t miss the arguments — mostly because now I finally win them. And sleeping alone? Bliss. No snoring, no sheets trembling from midnight gas eruptions — just me, peacefully sleeping for the first time in years.
So here’s the truth: I didn’t break, I rebooted — and the upgraded version runs smoother and doesn’t crash.
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Can’t Sleep? More than 50% of the world’s population can’t either. As many as 164 million Americans battle to sleep in this multibillion-dollar industry.
Sleep is essential for our physical and mental well-being. It helps restore our energy, strengthens our immune system, and aids in cognitive function. However, for millions of people around the world, sleep isn’t always easy to come by. Insomnia, a condition that affects both the quantity and quality of sleep, can take a significant toll on one’s daily life. Insomnia, the beast that disrupts our sleep, can leave us feeling drained, irritable, and disconnected. Whether it’s the occasional sleepless night or chronic insomnia, many of us grapple with the struggle to find rest.
Insomnia refers to the inability to sleep adequately, either in length or quality, despite the opportunity to sleep.
Mood Disorders: Increased risk of depression, anxiety, and irritability.
Physical Health Problems: Higher risk of heart disease, hypertension, and weakened immune system.
Decreased Performance: Reduced productivity and increased likelihood of accidents.
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Causes of Insomnia:
Several factors contribute to the development of insomnia. These can be physical, psychological, or environmental:
Stress and Anxiety: Life events like job pressure, financial concerns, or relationship issues can disrupt your sleep patterns. Constant worrying or anxious thoughts often keep people awake at night.
Mental Health Disorders: Anxiety, depression, and other mental health conditions can make it difficult to sleep. People with depression, for instance, often experience disrupted sleep or wake up earlier than desired.
Poor Sleep Habits: Irregular sleep schedules, excessive napping, or using electronic devices late at night can negatively affect the body’s internal clock, making it harder to fall asleep.
Medical Conditions: Certain health conditions, such as chronic pain, asthma, diabetes, and acid reflux, can make it difficult to get a restful night’s sleep. Additionally, conditions like sleep apnea or restless leg syndrome are known to cause insomnia.
Medications: Some medications, such as stimulants, certain antidepressants, and medications for high blood pressure, can interfere with sleep.
Lifestyle Factors: Consuming too much caffeine or alcohol, especially in the evening, can disrupt sleep. While alcohol might make you feel drowsy initially, it interferes with the sleep cycle and can cause wakefulness during the night. Heavy meals close to bedtime can also disrupt sleep.
Establish a Sleep Routine: Go to bed and wake up at the same time everyday, even on weekends.
Create a Relaxing Bedtime Ritual: Engage in calming activities such as reading, listening to soothing music, or taking a warm bath.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy: Consider cognitive therapy if you are feeling frustrated and are having negative thoughts. This type of therapy helps change thoughts and behaviors that contribute to insomnia.
Watch your diet: Limit caffeine and alcohol intake, especially in the evening. Avoid eating heavy meals and drinking a few hours before bed. Drinking can overwhelm the bladder and increase visits to the bathroom during the night. Other symptoms might include heartburn, hiccups and indigestion.
Meditation and Breathing Exercises: After a stressful day, meditation and breathing exercises help wonders in getting you ready for bed.
Avoid Napping: Avoid napping in the day, it’s important to maintain a consistent sleeping pattern.
Exercise: Physical activity can help you fall asleep faster and enjoy deeper sleep. Avoid exercising 3 hours before bed. Exercising can unstable your heart rate and can leave you dehydrated.
Temperature Control: Control the temperature, lighting and noise in your bedroom to ensure a comfortable sleeping environment. A Cool, dark room with no noise helps you sleep better. Try and carve out half an hour before bed to relax.
Limit Screen Time: Try and keep your sleeping area your sleeping area, and your work area your work area. The goal is to associate your bedroom with sleep alone. This establishes a sleeping routine. Avoid electronic devices at least an hour before bed as the blue light can interfere with melatonin production.
20 Minutes: If you can’t fall asleep after 20 minutes in bed, get up and do a relaxing activity like reading or listening to music in another room. Staying in bed awake can make your mind associate the bed with being awake.
Alarm Clocks: Remove alarm clocks out of view, watching the minutes anxiously tick by when you can’t sleep, just creates more anxiety.
When to Seek Help
If you’ve tried lifestyle changes and your insomnia persists, it may be time to consult a healthcare professional. Persistent insomnia can indicate an underlying medical condition or mental health disorder that requires treatment. A doctor may recommend therapies, medications, or further evaluation to get to the root of the problem.. It is important especially if insomnia is taking a heavy toll on your health and mood. It is worthwhile to keep a sleep journal to provide it to the doctor with as much supporting information as possible.
Insomnia can be a frustrating and exhausting condition, but it is treatable. By understanding its causes, recognizing the symptoms, and incorporating healthy habits into your routine, you can improve your sleep and your overall quality of life. Remember, good sleep is not a luxury—it’s a necessity. Prioritize your rest, and your body and mind will thank you.
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