Are you truly happy?
Happiness forms a central theme of Buddhist teachings. For ultimate freedom from suffering, is a state of everlasting peace. Ultimate happiness is only achieved by overcoming cravings in all forms. Buddhism also encourages the generation of loving kindness and compassion, the desire for the happiness and welfare of all beings.
Through self reflection you are able to truly answer this question. To maximize the benefits of self reflection, ask yourself questions that force you to reconsider the way you live, look and react to the world. If you are unhappy in a any area of your life, remember that only YOU have the choice to change it. Looking inwards to find happiness rather than relying on external conditions is one way forward to attain well being. We don’t need to be fixed and nothing is wrong with us. When we let go of our limiting beliefs, we can finally experience freedom, happiness, and our highest potential.
Your conditioning as a child leads to your belief systems, which cascades into your decision’s and choices. Your decision’s and choices then cascade into actions that cause results. Now, what people tend to do if they don’t like their results (their life circumstances), is they try to change their actions. So they will try a different business, move house, change jobs, get divorced.…only to find out that they manifest the exact same crappy job, relationship and life. The truth is to change your destiny and your life. You need to go upstream and find out what programming you have that is creating these life circumstances.
Some people are happier than others, part to genetics, but it’s also largely influenced by how you think. Studies reveal that happiness has little to do with materialistic items. In the 1970s, researchers followed people who’d won the lottery and found that a year later, they were no happier than people who hadn’t won the lottery. This suggests that the effect on our happiness is temporary. Its easy to think that we will be happy as soon as everything in our life is in order, when I get that perfect job or loose that extra weight, only to find that it’s the exact opposite and we are still unhappy. Happiness is like an addiction, we always want more, like an addict, just one more hit, only to realise that this interferes with our behavior and causes problems for ourselves and others.
Did you know that the average human being is only happy 30% of the time?
Children laugh an average of 400 times a day, while adults laugh only 15 times a day.
A 2012 survey of thousands of British adults, found that having regular contact with 10 or more friends, had a significant impact on an individual’s happiness level. People who had fewer friends reported lower levels of happiness all-around. In addition to bettering your mood, having a robust social network is linked to all sorts of other positive health factors, including a longer life.
In a look at couples that stay together versus those who divorce, researchers found that the ones who were in happy relationships had a 5:1 ratio of good exchanges to bad; people who ultimately divorced had just 0.8 happy encounters for every one negative interaction. Positive interactions don’t just happen on their own—can you think of a compliment, a shared memory, or something to laugh about with your partner today?
Any sex is good sex according to a University of Colorado Boulder study, but people were 55% more likely to report higher levels of happiness when they get busy every few days. Having sex once a week makes people 44% more likely to have positive feelings—slightly lower, but still good odds!
When a friend who lives less than a mile from you becomes happy, your chance of getting happier increases by 25%. Your increase in happiness will be about the same if you cohabitate with a joyful spouse, live within a mile of a happy sibling, or if your next door neighbor is extra cheerful, say San Diego–based scientists . Good feelings really do rub off, so keep your friends close, and your happiest friends even closer.
I think happiness is what makes you pretty. Period. Happy people are beautiful. They become like a mirror and they reflect that happiness – Drew Barrymore
Besides all the statistical data, here are a few other techniques to increase your happiness and live longer.
We have a choice how to react to every situation that may makes us unhappy. When you realise that you have total control of the situation, you can change how you react to it.
We need to start loving ourselves. Through self-love, we start to forgive and accept.
Ego and self-centeredness are the biggest threats to true happiness. Taking the focus off ourselves and showing compassion to others is just beginning.
Accept and embrace your habits, your personality, your mistakes, looks, and everything that is you. Try to be comfortable in your own skin.
Don’t get stuck in this rat race, rushing, swearing, getting angry and letting other people bring you down. Life is short, live everyday to the fullest, explore, travel, laugh and give. There is so much we can accomplish and do better.
I want you to close your eyes:
Picture yourself on the top of a hill overlooking your own funeral. All your family and friends are there….Who will be at your funeral and how many life’s will you have changed and made better or different. Will you be happy with the turn out?
If today was your last day, what would you do? If money wasn’t an issue and if you could do anything in the world, What would that be? When last did you experience the beautiful things in life, sunset, sunrise or the stars in the sky? What good did you do today?
To track you happiness, I recommend that you keep a journal. Write a list of all the things that make you happy and unhappy. Write a list of people you need to forgive and forgive them. If you are battling to forgive someone, picture this person happy, then picture both of you happy. If you are still battling with this, picture having your revenge and saying what you need to say to, then let go. Holding on to grudges only hurts you in the long term. Do something kind for someone today. Try and think positive thoughts. Meditate, live you life according to your own values with a clear conscience.
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This information has been taken from a variety of sources.
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